Jewelz says:
When I was in middle school and high school, I didn’t have much self-esteem. I would always compare myself to others and always think that there’s always someone better than me.
There would also be social groups: the popular ones, the cheerleaders, the jocks, and so on. The group of friends that you hung out with also shows who you are. This puts a lot of pressure on me aside from my schoolwork because I would always think about the way I dress and the way I look.
It was only later that I realized that I didn’t have to dress up to please anybody or project a certain image to show who I am, rather, I started dressing up in clothes that I feel comfortable in.
I was able to develop confidence in myself and I started feeling more comfortable in my own skin. I think being able to accept who you are, your hair, your eyes, your nose, and everything about you is one of the first steps in building confidence.
At first, this was quite difficult since I always compared myself to others and in middle school and high school, we are all experiencing changes. When I started accepting who I was and knowing that I couldn’t change it, I started believing in myself and started thinking of ways how I can improve myself. I first started “getting to know myself” again by finding out my strengths and weaknesses. Once I figured that out, I started working on my weaknesses.
For example, I knew that I was really shy and it stopped me from participating in class. It dreads me having other people look at me when I speak. I would then challenge myself and participate the next day. Every time I would participate in class, I would feel much better and happy I was able to accomplish a little goal. When I felt comfortable participating in class, I started speaking in front of the class. Little goals can help in achieving my big goal of overcoming shyness by speaking in front of the class.
I think having confidence has done a lot for me. It made me look better since I can hold my head up high and not walk with a slouch. I can communicate with others better by looking them in the eye. I can talk in front of the class and deliver a presentation, although I get nervous sometimes. In flag football tournaments, I can play well because I know my capabilities.
I believe that we first have to trust and believe in ourselves before we can trust others.
What are other ways to boost our confidence? And when do you feel confident? :)
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i believe that confidence is an essential factor in our daily lives. but i alos like the other factor that you talked about and that is challeging yourself. for me, it is the most important because in order to challenge yousrself you need to know your own strengths and capabilities., and this means getting in touch with your intimacy. the more you know about yourself the better person you become that is if you work to improve yourself
i believe in the power of confidence and being who you are.. like what my used to say when i was younger, if you're always shy or if you're not confident, you won't get to where you want to be in life. "walang mangyayari sayo kung parati kang nahihiya." i keep that in mind all the time. now, i'm happy where i am and in what i'm doing. :)
For me, performing on stage and joining different sports are ways of gaining confidence =)
Anonymous said...
For me, performing on stage and joining different sports are ways of gaining confidence =)
Jewelz says:
wow, that's a tough one.. performing on stage, that takes a lot of guts.. 2 thumbs up to you! :)
i feel confident when people laugh at my jokes.. hehehe
i feel good whenever i do well on exams.
From experience,it is indeed helpful to PRACTICE in front of a mirror or take a video of yourself when you want to improve your speaking ability.If you speak better then you gain more confidence.
I have teenagers at home...am glad to know of your website.I let them read your advises.They seem to be more receptive getting some advise from peers.Yours seems to be a wholesome webpage that would help a lot of teenagers
Professors are big factors in helping build a Students CONFIDENCE.If professors RESPECT the students then students become confident enough to face the world even after graduation
CONFIDENCE is built in the primary years of a child.If a child is well loved,well hugged by parents and by family from infancy, then he will be confident throughout his life..
When you're not blond and thin,you come up with a personality real quick
You build confidence from honest comments from your family & friends.
Even though I graduated from college already,I still feel am not that confident enough to face the corporate world.
My mother would always remind us to stand straight and tall,then you would already feel confident & look confident
Sometimes when a person shows too much confidence,he seems to me a big head.
I started to feel confident when I met new friends...
My sister taught me ways on how to feel confident
I was a silent person before,until I attended seminars on personality development and booom! I am now a totally different person.And very happy with the world.
I was a silent person before,until I attended seminars on personality development and booom! I am now a totally different person.And very happy with the world.
My Aunt who is into marketing showed me in actual situations how you could be confident in approaching people.Sometimes we really a role model.
How do I know if I am confident enough ?
Hi Victoria;
My Professor in humanities at U.P. said that you will be the best Judge of ourself if you are confident enough.Its when you are at ease to face any situation that may arise in your Life.
Get out,sing and dance like Julie Andrews at sound of Music.Then shout out loud,"I have confidence in meeeee!"
Only when no ones looking,ok?
My cousin seems shy though he is good looking.How could I help him build his confidence?
Could I consider myself confident ,even if I am not articulate?
Jewelz, dont you have the best exposure with diversified backgrounds in the U.S. where you studied High school? Why did you consider yourself shy?
i feel confident when i receive good commendations from others, commendations which i know are fair
love yourself, don't underestimate your capabilities
have a good hygiene
Know thyself means this, that you get acquainted with what you know, and what you can do.
--By Menander
Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.
--Doug Firebaugh
avoid beauty magazines that promotes low self-esteem
believe that everyone is created with their own beauty
do something that you are sure that you will succeed
when you've done something good, reward yourself
avoid hanging around with people that are "pintaseras and pintaseros"
i definitely agree with that
knowing your strengths and weakness will help
we have to accept our limitations and work out with our capabilities
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.
--Aristotle
Insist on yourself. Never imitate.
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us.
--Jean-Paul Sartre
for me confidence starts with respect to yourself
If we all did the things we are capable of,
we would astound ourselves.
--Thomas Edison
Anonymous said...
For me, performing on stage and joining different sports are ways of gaining confidence =)
i've tried that and it worked
at school i try to boost my confidence by reciting well in class, i do this by studying in advance
Lao Tzu:
Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.
Sun Tzu:
Know yourself and you will win all battles.
Helen Keller:
Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.
An important key to self- confidence is preparation
Robert F. Kennedy:
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly
Brian G. Jett:
You can determine how confident people are by listening to what they don't say about themselves.
Zig Ziglar:
You cannot consistently perform in a manner which is inconsistent with the way you see yourself.
You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.
by Michael Jordan
By Frank Lloyd Wright
Youth is a circumstance you can't do anything about. The trick is to grow up without getting old.
The good Lord gave you a body that can stand most anything. It's your mind you have to convince.
Vincent Lombardi
The whole world steps aside for the man who knows where he is going.
Anonymous
Ralph Waldo Emerson:
To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in our private heart is for all men - that is genius.
Norman Vincent Peale:
Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.
Confidence is the companion of success.
be eager to learn new things
Smile... you wont die if you fail
i know someone who was so embarrassed when he realize how shy person he used to be, he said ang pangit ko pala pagsobrang mahiyain! hehehe
engage into sports or something you know you are good at
don't be afraid to ask questions
don't be afraid to learn
do not be too sensitive if others don't appreciate your capabilities
view yourself as a unique person
keep in mind that we always have something that others don't
example, you have a bad odor and others don't hahahaha
hahha, that's funny!
get rid of that odor, you'll drive away people hehhe
when i've done something really good i show it, praises adds confidence
but be careful of being over confident
oooo, i hate that attitude
most of the people does
i feel confident when people respect my ideas
i feel confident when my suggestions are accepted
i feel confident when my husband smiles after tasting my recipe
i feel confident when people say how smooth my skin is
I am STRONG, I am CONFIDENT
learn to love and you'll be love then you'll be confident
Earl Gray Stevens:
Confidence, like art, never comes from having all the answers; it comes from being open to all the questions.
Part of being a champ is acting like a champ. You have to learn how to win and not run away when you lose. Everyone has bad stretches and real successes. Either way, you have to be careful not to lose your confidence or get to confident.
Zig Ziglar:
Put all excuses aside and remember this: YOU are capable.
Show class, have pride, and display character.
Self-respect permeates every aspect of your life.
People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.
those who win are those who think they can.
Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees all others.
Stewart E. White:
Do not attempt to do a thing unless you are sure of yourself; but do not relinquish it simply because someone else is not sure of you.
Richard L. Evans:
Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was.
tell yourself... "Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better."
Trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
What's the worst thing that can happen to a quarterback? He loses his confidence.
When you engage in systematic, purposeful action, using and stretching your abilities to the maximum, you cannot help but feel positive and confident about yourself.
Napoleon Bonaparte:
He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat.
William Johnson:
If it is to be, it is up to me.
if you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can't accomplish it.
my husband says he doesn't have confidence
A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her. ~David Brinkley
It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.
We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies. ~Roderick Thorp, Rainbow Drive
I quit being afraid when my first venture failed and the sky didn't fall down. ~Allen H. Neuharth
nice confidence quotes richard
it really helps pondering on these quotations
here's a nice one from Vincent Van Gogh
If you hear a voice within you say "you cannot paint," then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.
Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
here's another good quote
People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within. ~Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
Don't live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable. By Wendy Wasserstein
I am not a has-been. I am a will be. --Lauren Bacall
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.
from Peter T. Mcintyre
Thousands of geniuses live and die undiscovered - either by themselves or by others. ~Mark Twain
Always act like you're wearing an invisible crown
Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You're on your own.
And you know what you know.
You are the guy who'll decide where to go.
~Dr. Seuss
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You're on your own.
And you know what you know.
You are the guy who'll decide where to go.
~Dr. Seuss
Knock the "t" off the "can't." ~Samuel Johnson
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level. ~Max L. Forman
Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.
It's me who is my enemy
Me who beats me up
Me who makes the monsters
Me who strips my confidence.
~Paula Cole, "Me," This Fire
Don't let anyone steal your dream. It's your dream, not theirs. ~Dan Zadra
Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
--Veronica A. Shoffstall, "After a While," 1971
I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship. ~Louisa May Alcott
Pay no attention to what the critics say. A statue has never been erected in honor of a critic. ~Jean Sibelius
The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.
God wisely designed the human body so that we can neither pat our own backs nor kick ourselves too easily. ~Author Unknown
The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.
Many men are like unto sausages: Whatever you stuff them with, that they will bear in them. ~Alexi Konstantinovich Tolstoy
Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves. ~Gene Fowler, Skyline, 1961
good comments, nice quotes. I feel confident when im with good people
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