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Saturday, February 23, 2008

UA&P I AM S.T.R.O.N.G: Improve Your Self-Esteem!

Joie Shares..

How we feel about ourselves can influence how we live our lives. People who feel that they are likable and lovable (in other words people with good self-esteem) have better relationships. They are more likely to ask for help and support from friends and family when they need it. People who believe they can accomplish goals and solve problems are more likely to do well in school. Having good self-esteem allows you to accept yourself and live life to the fullest.


Steps to Improving Self-Esteem:

If you want to improve your self-esteem, here are some steps to start empowering yourself:

1.Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself.
If you're used to focusing on your shortcomings, start thinking about positive aspects of yourself that outweigh them. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself. Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.

2. Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection.
Some people become paralyzed by perfection. Instead of holding yourself back with thoughts like, "I won't audition for the play until I lose 10 pounds," think about what you're good at and what you enjoy, and go for it.

3. View mistakes as learning opportunities.
Accept that you will make mistakes because everyone does. Mistakes are part of learning. Remind yourself that a person's talents are constantly developing, and everyone excels at different things — it's what makes people interesting.

4. Try new things.
Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in new skills you develop.

5. Recognize what you can change and what you can't.
If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.

6. Set goals.
Think about what you'd like to accomplish, then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress.

7. Take pride in your opinions and ideas.
Don't be afraid to voice them.

8. Make a contribution.
Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walk-a-thon for a good cause, or volunteer your time in some other way. Feeling like you're making a difference and that your help is valued can do wonders to improve self-esteem.

9. Exercise!
You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.

10. Have fun.
Ever found yourself thinking stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were thinner"? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.


*article taken from: http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/self_esteem.html

Self-esteem plays a role in almost everything you do. People with high self-esteem do better in school and find it easier to make friends. They tend to have better relationships with peers and adults, feel happier, find it easier to deal with mistakes, disappointments, and failures, and are more likely to stick with something until they succeed. It takes some work, but it's a skill you'll have for life :)

How were you able to develop your self-esteem? :) Share us your thoughts!

*Brought to you by UA&P I am S.T.R.O.N.G.

183 comments:

Anonymous said...

nice post ate joie!
this would really help me improve my self-esteem..
i hope i could also share one of my articles here..
God speed!

Anonymous said...

I think number 1 is important because if you don't believe in yourself, who will?

Anonymous said...

Parents have very important role in improving self esteem of a child.SINCERELY PRAISE THEM FOR THE GOOD DEEDS THEY DO.We need to be attentive to our children esp.during their formative years of 1-5.

Anonymous said...

nice post yet again, joie! i agree with jewelz...believing in yourself is the first step to improving self esteem...because if you dont believe in yourself and in what you can do, you can never be truly best at what you can do ;P

Anonymous said...

nice post yet again, joie! i agree with jewelz...believing in yourself is the first step to improving self esteem...because if you dont believe in yourself and in what you can do, you can never be truly best at what you can do ;P

loveforeveryoung said...

Tq so much for inviting me.. such a very nice blog!!!

I just want to say a huge thanks to everyone who has visited my blog over the one month. I really appreciate the time you've taken to read my blog and comment - it means a lot to me :)

Anonymous said...

I miss playing flagfootball.. I should get some exercise! :)

Anonymous said...

Nice one joie! :)

Anonymous said...

One way is how you carry yourself.. Stand tall!

Anonymous said...

be comfortable with who you are around friends

Anonymous said...

Oh! in trying new things.... I remember the folding t-shirt thing that you guys posted!! that was so cool! I actually did it..

Anonymous said...

Setting little goals everyday will lead to the BIG goal. Baby steps do count..

Anonymous said...

whenever I feel that I didn't do to well on a test, I challenge myself to do better next time.

Anonymous said...

Don't compare yourself to others

Anonymous said...

knowing that someone trusts you boosts your self-esteem..

Anonymous said...

how do I know if I have enough self-esteem?

Anonymous said...

Heard the saying "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me?" Words can be more powerful that physical wounds... They may leave an emotional scar forever.

Anonymous said...

we have to learn how to stand up for ourselves and fight for what we believe in.

Anonymous said...

Hi Jewelz! I miss dancing too. It used to be ballet when i was in grade school and high school, and pep 1st-3rd year college. Dancing was a good way for me to improve my self-esteem! it was also my stress reliver coz i love to dance :) These days, i've been extra busy with school.. i don't really have time to exercise anymore.

Anonymous said...

Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself! For me this is very important. We all must have a positive attitude towards ourselves :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you peach strawberry :) Please invite your friends to our site too :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you for the tips! ;p

Anonymous said...

Accept that you are not perfect.. no one is! But you can be the best you can be :)

Anonymous said...

Know the difference between confidence and OVERconfidence!

Anonymous said...

not bad for beginners... i commend this site for gathering great replies though you did not come up with original posts, sharing wonderful texts post from other people is something i like to call recognizing other people's talent and letting the world know it. good job guys

Anonymous said...

not bad for beginners... i commend this site for gathering great replies though you did not come up with original posts, sharing wonderful texts post from other people is something i like to call recognizing other people's talent and letting the world know it. good job guys

Anonymous said...

nice post joie.. my cousin liked the post thanks.. :)

Anonymous said...

i did not like this post its not original..

Anonymous said...

anonymous above this:
We wanted to share this to those who wanted to boost their self-esteem, the group felt that it was a good read. Thank you for your honesty.

Anonymous said...

just notice... be careful how you carry your self-esteem coz there's a tendency to become overconfident.

It's good to believe oneself but be honest also of what you and can't do. be willing to accept what you have and willing to learn where you fail the most. With this, it will help you enhance your self-esteem.

Anonymous said...

PEACH STRAWBERRY:

we will be happy to have you as a guest writer some time soon! just email us your article at imcteama@gmail.com =P

Anonymous said...

there tips will help me a lot. Thank you ate!

Anonymous said...

self esteem is something every teen must have.. A lot there days are very insecure about their looks. Thanks for your help!

Anonymous said...

I am happy this blog is helping teens become people with values and principles. Great job!

Anonymous said...

People with self esteem excel more than those who are insecure. I hope people will take time to learn to love themselves and improve their self confidence

Anonymous said...

People with self esteem excel more than those who are insecure. I hope people will take time to learn to love themselves and improve their self confidence

Anonymous said...

Those with high self esteem should try to help those who are insecure. They should find ways to boost others self confidence from time to time. It will make a huge impact

Anonymous said...

Recognize what you CAN change and what you CAN'T. this is important :D

Anonymous said...

I agree with this post a lot. But if i may just add, it is also through the people whom we are comfortable with (those who are for keeps or just plainly hanging around with) where we get the esteem we need to boost our confidence.

Anonymous said...

Love yourself, embrace your uniqueness! Don't wish to be somebody else...

Anonymous said...

Hi Guys! Thank you for your comments :)

Anonymous said...

it's cool that you guys share really important things.. thanks!

Anonymous said...

i feel better about myself already!:)

Anonymous said...

im totally letting my kids visit this blog! love it!

Anonymous said...

self-esteem is important! thanks for the tips

Anonymous said...

I make the most out of what I have got! That's how i develop my self-esteem. I may not have everything, but i have a lot of show the world

Anonymous said...

By not letting yourself be judged or defined by people around you!

Anonymous said...

thanks for the tip!!!

Anonymous said...

Stress: Wow! thanks for your help :)

Anonymous said...

Know your self-worth!

Anonymous said...

I had friends who believed in me.. they help me a lot in developing my self-esteem

Anonymous said...

"Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection" ------- this is a good one :p

Anonymous said...

I will use these tips so i can improve my self-esteem. ty!

Anonymous said...

this is a nice post! very helpful

Anonymous said...

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

Anonymous said...

Be proud of your capabilities!

Anonymous said...

Unleash your potentials. Don't be afraid to show them :)

Anonymous said...

Gain confidence from those who love and believe in you!

Anonymous said...

Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Accepting who you are is the 1st step!

Anonymous said...

Being actually good at something made me improve my self-esteem :)

Anonymous said...

My parents always believe in me.. They never insult me or say things to bring me down, and i love them for that. They very much helped in boosting my self-esteem

Anonymous said...

"I think number 1 is important because if you don't believe in yourself, who will?" ... SATAN will hahaha... omg just kidding!!

Anonymous said...

any tips on how to have a size ZERO? come on.. that would boost my self-esteem !!

Anonymous said...

YEAH! farwell perry is right! you should include that on your list...

BE A SIZE ZERO or a size 2 fine!.. and that for sure will boost your SELF_ESTEEM!!

hahahah

Anonymous said...

be good at something!

Anonymous said...

Show the world who you are and what you can do

Anonymous said...

continue trying to improve yourself

Anonymous said...

insecurity is destructive!

Anonymous said...

do not be defined by shallow things like your weight!

Anonymous said...

Hello i am strong :)

Anonymous said...

this is a good blogsite for teenagers!

Anonymous said...

interesting :)

Anonymous said...

feel good about yourself

Anonymous said...

Good job!

Anonymous said...

BE OPTIMISTIC

Anonymous said...

know what you can change and what you can't!

Anonymous said...

DO good deeds! It'll help you feel good about yourself :)

Anonymous said...

improve your personality!

Anonymous said...

Believe in yourself!

Anonymous said...

Be grateful for what you have

Anonymous said...

i improved my self-esteem when i stopped comparing myself to others

Anonymous said...

Join different activities to discover your talents :)

Anonymous said...

Be proud of your identity!

Anonymous said...

KNOW YOUR WORTH

Anonymous said...

Keep trying to improve yourself

Anonymous said...

Be YOURSELF :D

Anonymous said...

Do not be intimidated by others

Anonymous said...

Take pride in your achievements

Anonymous said...

Don't be afraid to show the world who you are!

Anonymous said...

Respect your individuality

Anonymous said...

i need this!! thanks for sharing

Anonymous said...

know that you are loved

Anonymous said...

Set goals for yourself :)

Anonymous said...

accomplish tasks daily :)

Anonymous said...

Exercising makes me happy!

Anonymous said...

nice post!!!!

Anonymous said...

help others improve their self-esteem

critical said...

very nice post,hehe, we all need this

Anonymous said...

100th comment, woooohoooooo

Anonymous said...

THANKS EVERYONE FOR YOUR COMMENTS :)

Anonymous said...

ate Joie of UA&P, thanks for the post! I'm Greg from Ateneo High. I found this site when i was searching for UA&P in google. Such a great blog site!I will be visiting this more often

Anonymous said...

Greg: that would be great! thank you so much :)

Anonymous said...

"Chicago researchers surveyed 1,331 teenagers in the 1960’s and a similar group in the late 1970’s and 1980. Their conclusion? “Over approximately an 18-year period the self-perceptions of American teen-agers apparently have become decidedly less positive.” The study describes today’s teenagers as being less secure than before, with lower ethical standards. About one fifth of them say that they are empty emotionally and confused most of the time, and that they would rather die than go on living".

-- AWAKE! Magazine

Anonymous said...

that is loss of self- esteem

Anonymous said...

everyone needs a certain amount of self-esteem. It has been called the ingredient that gives dignity to human existence

Anonymous said...

that's right!

Anonymous said...

if you feel bad about yourself, you will probably feel bad about others too.

Anonymous said...

I believe that parents have a great role in building the self- esteem of their child.

Anonymous said...

Failure to meet one’s parents’ expectations can be another cause of low self-esteem.

Anonymous said...

How can you bolster sagging self-esteem?

Anonymous said...

First, take an honest look at your assets and liabilities. You will discover that many of your so-called liabilities are quite petty.

Anonymous said...

What about serious flaws, such as a quick temper or selfishness? Conscientiously work on these problems and your self-respect is sure to grow.

Anonymous said...

do not blind yourself to the fact that you already have assets! You may not think that being able to cook or to fix a flat tire is that important. But a hungry person or a stranded motorist will admire you for having such skills! Think, too, of your virtues. Are you studious? Patient? Compassionate? Generous? Kind? These qualities far outweigh minor flaws.

Anonymous said...

Set realistic goals: If you always shoot for the stars, you can suffer bitter disappointment. Set goals that are attainable. How about learning a skill such as typing? Learn to play a musical instrument or to speak another language. Improve or branch out in your reading. Self-respect is a useful by-product of accomplishment.

Anonymous said...

Do good work: If you do shoddy work, you’re not going to feel good about yourself. God took pleasure in his creative works and declared the creative epochs to be “good” at their completion. (Genesis 1:3-31) You, too, can take pleasure in whatever work you do at home or in school by doing it skillfully and conscientiously.—See Proverbs 22:29.

Anonymous said...

Do things for others: Self-respect is not gained by sitting back and letting others wait on you hand and foot. Jesus said that “whoever wants to become great . . . must be [a] minister,” or servant, for others.—Mark 10:43-45.

Anonymous said...

Pick your friends carefully: “My relationship with myself is a very unhappy one,” said 17-year-old Barbara. “When I am with people who have confidence in me, I do good work. With those who treat me as an accessory to a machine, I become stupid.”

Anonymous said...

Sometimes the adolescent with a weak identity and low self-esteem tries to develop a false front or facade with which to face the world.” The roles some assume are familiar: The “tough guy,” the promiscuous socialite, the outrageously clad punk rocker. But beneath the facades, such youths still grapple with feelings of inferiority.

Anonymous said...

When you have a good self-esteem it will add beauty to your entire personality

Anonymous said...

my husband used to have a very low self esteem even if he's good looking... hahaha

Anonymous said...

jack-of-all-trades pa yun but low self-esteem

Anonymous said...

but as his wife I am helping him to gain his belief in his self and his capabilities

Anonymous said...

I give good and honest commendations, it works

Anonymous said...

the world is full of unequal things

Anonymous said...

there are people with low self-esteem
and there are people who have too much if it hahaha

Anonymous said...

That is true...

Anonymous said...

We can cultivate self-esteem but let us not forget humility

Anonymous said...

Nice comment

Anonymous said...

Nice post jewelz

Anonymous said...

People who are usually shy have low self-esteem

Anonymous said...

Kudos for those who are doing great in improving their self-esteem

Anonymous said...

Some people who are talented enough, good looking and kind still have low self-esteem

Anonymous said...

just think that even if there are thing that we can't do or things which we are no good at think that everyone is unique

Anonymous said...

we must have that something that other can't do and we are very good at

Anonymous said...

we just have to discover it

Anonymous said...

that's right

Anonymous said...

people with low self-esteem usually express themselves online

Anonymous said...

people with low self-esteem usually express themselves online

Anonymous said...

beauty magazines promotes low self-esteem

Anonymous said...

so try to avoid it hehhe

Anonymous said...

Suicidal tendencies by a teenager has very poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

always fighting in front of your child will prooved to be disastrous for your child self esteem

Anonymous said...

untidy habits is poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

Taking dangerous drugs is a sign of poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

poor social skills is also a sign of poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

not trusting your own judgement is poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

not dressing up and poor taste of clothing is bad self esteem

Anonymous said...

dirty finger nails and not cleaning is a bad sign and poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

always drunk is low self esteem

Anonymous said...

a loner is a sign of low self esteem

Anonymous said...

indescent exposure to the public is poor self esteem

Anonymous said...

everything starts at home

Anonymous said...

trust in yourself

Anonymous said...

trust your parents, they can help you

Anonymous said...

no one can make you stumble unless you let them

Anonymous said...

self yourself and do something to improve

Anonymous said...

read

Anonymous said...

improve your selfworth by believing

Anonymous said...

be your own critic

Anonymous said...

dont be too hard on yourself though

Anonymous said...

be creative

Anonymous said...

explore

Anonymous said...

write a journal of self affirmation

Anonymous said...

improve yourself physically

Anonymous said...

yes beautiful body can improve self esteem

Anonymous said...

do some recreational activites with your friends

Anonymous said...

engage in active sports

Anonymous said...

go out and have good fun

Anonymous said...

eat your heart out and enjoy

Anonymous said...

brain dead na ako

Anonymous said...

magkakape muna ako para makapag isip

Anonymous said...

widen out

Anonymous said...

rad a lot of self esteem books and APPLY

Anonymous said...

practice being with people

Anonymous said...

no to negative thoughts

Anonymous said...

share your thoughts with others

Anonymous said...

try new things out so you can expose yourself to different experiences

Anonymous said...

create groups

Anonymous said...

touch someone's life and your see your worth

Anonymous said...

take time to know yourself - strength and weakness

Anonymous said...

believe

Anonymous said...

dream

Anonymous said...

draw close to people who can help you improve and not to pull you down