UA&P I AM S.T.R.O.N.G: 5 Languages of Apology

Ruther Shares..


Having relationships with others—be it with friends, family, or a lover, it is one of the best gifts we can have in life. But sometimes, as we learn to love them, we tend to hurt them and take them for granted. Sometimes, they can also the ones who hurt you. And even if you hear thousands of apologies from them, you still find it difficult to forgive that person.
Gary Chapman, the author of 5 Love Languages, had also written a book on the 5 Languages of Apology. In his book, he mentioned that people accept apologies in different ways, like how we accept love. You might find this helpful as you learn to forgive others and understand how to accept apology. It is also possible that how you accept apology is also the way you would ask for forgiveness if you happen to hurt others’ feeling.


Expressing regret

What you wanna hear in an apology is an immediate expression of sorrow for causing you pain. You’re able to accept apology from someone who express regret by simply saying. “I’m sorry”.

Accepting responsibility

What you are looking for in apology is maturity, and you want to hear from the person who have hurt you, “I was wrong and I take responsibility for it”

Making restitution

You find it easiest to forgive when action is taken to compensate for the wrong done to you. You don’t only listen to the explanation why things got wrong and the admission of the person about his fault, but you also want him to tell and realize, “What can I do to make it better”.

Genuinely repenting

You find an apology most sincere when followed by a promise to change, with offending person to saying, “I’ll try not to that again”. This kind of apology assures you that the person will avoid hurting you again.

Requesting forgiveness

You want to know what the offending person highly values your relationship and sincerely desires restoration. This is when the other party gives great importance on asking for forgiveness.


At the end of the day, all we want is to have strong and healthy relationships with others so that our love will be fully expressed.

So, what is your primary language of apology?

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