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Social Support: The Hows and Whys of Cultivating a Circle of Friends
By Elizabeth Scott, M.S.
Why It Pays To Have A Group:
Studies on social support show that having one or two close and supportive friends is at least as valuable to emotional health as having a large group of friendly acquaintances or more shallow friendships. However, having social support from several supportive friends would be the best of both worlds. You probably already know if you're more comfortable with one good friend or many, but there are some good reasons to have at least a few different friends to fall back on:
- If you have only one person supporting you through difficult times, you may wear that person out, or feel unsupported if that person is unavailable. It’s better for everyone if you have at least a few people to depend on.
- You draw different benefits from different types of people. Having an outgoing friend to party with, a knowledgeable friend to gain information and insights from, and an empathic friend to be a good listener during tough times, for example, provides a better blend of social support than
any one of these people alone could give. - Your friends can bring out different qualities in one another that benefit all of you. For example, your outgoing friend could bring your shy empathic friend out of her shell, and the three of you could go out and party together. Plus, your friends can introduce you to more friends, giving you a greater pool of pre-screened potential friends.
- Studies show that a sense of belonging is extremely important for emotional health and well-being; those who have social support but don't feel a sense of belonging are much more likely to suffer from depression, for example.
How to Meet New People:
If you’re not still in school or working for a large company with a built-in social structure and constant opportunities to meet new people, it’s still easy to build new friendships. Here are a few ways to meet new people:
- Join a Gym. If you’re not comfortable striking up a conversation with the person on the next stairmaster, most gyms offer yoga, aerobics or even martial arts classes, which provide a more intimate setting and opportunities to meet people, perhaps finding a workout buddy.
- Get Involved in a Hobby. If you enjoy making things with your hands, perhaps you can enroll in a community art class. If you like writing, a writer’s workshop will provide a great opportunity to improve your writing skills and get to know other writers at the same time. Joining a class geared toward your interests ensures you’ll improve yourself, and you’ll meet people with whom you already have something in common!
- Volunteer! Getting involved with a charity you believe in will give you a sense of doing something positive to help the world, which has a great way of relieving stress in itself, and you’ll meet others with similarly big hearts and great passion for helping.
- Get a Pet Not only will you derive physical and emotional benefits from being a pet owner, you can meet others at dog parks or pet stores. There are even park days for passionate rabbit owners! Let your ‘best friend’ help you connect with other (human) friends.
- Have a Party If you invite all of your current friends and encourage each to bring a friend, you’ll have a pool of new people to meet. Plus, you may inspire your friends to throw their own parties, where you’ll meet even more new people.
- Smile! This one may sound simple, but if you give off an ‘approachable vibe’, you may find that you’re striking up conversations with new people wherever you go. Not all these conversations need to lead to a new friendship, but some might, and just one warm exchange with someone new can brighten up your day (and theirs)!
I enjoy being around friends, especially when I'm down. They offer a lot of support and find great ways in cheering you up. I have this friend named Avvy and she says the most hilarious things, I just can't get enough! I have many different kinds of friends who are all precious to me because of who they are. I just moved to Manila for college and I think I have met some of the most amazing people whom I'll never forget - block J during my freshman year, my classmates in IMC, students I meet in other classes, people I meet outside of school, and all my teachers.
Having friends makes you feel comfortable being who you are and they allow you to grow and mature. How have friends touched your lives?
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Friends that's there for you in time of sorrow does not mean that they are your true friends. They might have other ulterior motive.
Baka maniwala lagi sa iyong friends kahit na mali ang sinasabi niya sa iyo!
If you admire someone and it happened that he is your best friend, it can lead into something more than friends!
Jun Lozada is now a celebrity, I am sure he met a lot of new friends. But are they good ones?
Jun Lozada can learn new ways in selecting his new friends.
Chavit Singson used to a good friend of Estrada, until he turn the former President into the authorities.
I noticed that a band group are in tact for a while and then they separate, and moved on.
Martin Nivera is a popular singer but remain friend with Pops Fernandez.
Eddie Gutierrez and other male actor are good friends with lots of celebrities in the opposite sex
Willie the host of Wowwowie show on television made friends and enemy from the other TV station. He even apologized to Joey!
Willie also has good friends in Customs until he got caught making a raw deal buying an imported car. He knows who are his friends now!
I was introduced to a school management and they appear to be good people and tried to be friend with us. However, after borrowing money to fund the school they are operating, the checks they issue as payment bounced! What a friend!
A firend of mine, ran for vice mayor in one of the province last election, but the his running mate, the mayor was the main reason he lost the election. What a two face friend!
having fake friends are undesireable.
Even sisters and bothers are good friends but when they dont like each other they are no longer friends. They dont even talk to one another. Its terrible.
I like your article jewelz. It is a good one.
Jewlz, how come you come out with great articles! Its nice to read.
Jwelz, please keep posting good articles. I like sharing it with my friends.
i told my friends to read this article and share it to their friends as well.
My wife is my friend and my valentine for life.
My daughter likes watching Dora, Barney, blues clues, and other videos, and I find myself amazed by it and I even shared it with friends.
Senator Escudero is a good friend of Mike Defensor, but from what is happening now, I dont think Mike will be his friend anymore.
Ping Lacson found new life in politics and lots of good friends as well.
How about Jambi Madrigal, she is not afraid to find out who is telling the truth in this new scandal!
Miriam Defensor has a loud mouth and used foul language in public, I dont think she has many friends at all!
Miriam Defensor lost the presidential election to Fidel Ramos, now they are on the same side of the fence.
Senator Gordon, is very quite now and seldom say anything about the administration scandal! I wonder why? He is a good friend of the malacanang power house.
MMDA Chairman Fernando, dont have lots of friends in the sidewalk. He threw away most of the vendors cart.
I like Bayani Fernando, but at the same time I hate him because he does things his on way, the only way. I dont like him as a friend, lots of trouble.
true friends are true riches
make sure that your friend is your friend because that person loves you not because of some benefits from you
who are the most valuable friends that a man can have
the friendship of the true Friends so vital to us
"“THE only way to have a friend is to be one,” wrote Emerson, the American poet. Friendship is a two-way street involving the spirit of giving. Introverts and those with selfish tendencies find it difficult to make true friends. Nevertheless, they can succeed, as we shall see".
Hello everyone!! its time to make new friends
A simple and sincere smile can be a start of good friendship
Jun Lozada may lost his former friends but he gained new ones
Can anyone give a good example of true friendship in politics?
I can' think of someone... Is there any?
JDV and Many Gina
PGMA and FG
Erap and Singson?
True friendship grows out of love because love draws people.
True friends are not only honest but also considerate, never imposing on each other or being overly possessive.
Not all true friends are close friends
I agree with that
True friends understand each other, can sense the other person’s view of things, and can thus show empathy
So-called friends can be many when all goes well. But when misfortune strikes, they disappear. True friends are usually hard to find.
precisely. I've experienced that
i agree with one comment here that a true friend will remind you if you are getting into the wrong path
and that friend friend will not join you but will rescue you from any harm it may cause you
Not All “Friends” Are True Friends
yes that is true...
I agree with that too
i have a lot of friends but only few are true
Hello friendly people
hello Zibia, are you new here?
Yes I am
Welcome to this blogspot. Enjoy!
i think i'll be enjoying here. thank you
to have many friends and then lose all of them is very discouraging
To acquire acquaintances is easy to make true friends is not
there is wisdom in being selective about friends
False friends are often great flatterers who curry favor with some ulterior motive
think carefully about your present circle of friends. Do they influence you for good or for bad?
Do they act rashly and delight in taking risks?
What is their attitude toward those of the opposite sex?
Are they courteous and respectful or overly familiar?
Have your regular companions proved to be dishonest, unreliable people?
Are they drug takers? Heavy drinkers? If so, you are in danger. You may be honest, clean, and humble, but remember: “Bad associations spoil useful habits.”—1 Corinthians 15:33.
The great danger in having bad companions is that you will imitate them
i agree with that Aimee. their ways and attitudes will rub off on you. As the Bible says: “Keep company with the wise and you will become wise. If you make friends with stupid people, you will be ruined.”—Proverbs 13:20, TEV.
I praise those who are true to their friends
That is a good checklist anonymous
Now we can check if we are in the right circle of friends
I like being with friendly people
Friendly people are comfortable to be with
Way back in high school, i used to be the only girl in our group
im more comfortable to hang around with my male classmates than the female one
They are easy to get along with
they don't expect much from you, they don't engage in destructive gossip and they're cool
And I get a lot of respect from them
of course, i have female friends too and they use me to get their crushes' attention since they are my friends
It is easy to take a false step when acquiring friends. But do not be discouraged. There are still millions of fine, friendly people in the world.
yes, and there are many ways to meet them
thanks to technology
just be cautious
Yeah, our world is not that safe anymore
s brighten up my day
i mean friends
they are like water in a desert
I love my friends
Does your friends love you?
I remember i have a friend in high school where he is fond of embarrassing me, but as we grew older we became good friends
Sometimes being so kind to a friend of the opposite sex brings a different impression to others
well, that's nature
So-called platonic relationships (affectionate relationships between men and women into which the sexual element does not enter) are quite popular among youths
a “platonic” friendship is often little more than a thinly disguised romance or a way to get attention from someone of the opposite sex without commitment
In his book The Friendship Factor, Alan Loy McGinnis advises: “Don’t trust yourself too far.” Take precautions, perhaps confining your association to properly supervised group activities. Avoid inappropriate displays of affection or being alone in romantic circumstances. When you are troubled, confide in parents and older persons rather than a youth of the opposite sex.
that's a good advice
let's all be friends!!
a friend of mine..
i like that song
a true friend adds a lot to the joy of living.
Doing something with a friend seems to multiply the enjoyment of a particular experience
a good friend can do a lot to relieve your sadness.
Friends can be a real help when trouble threatens
They can warn you of danger and help you to escape it, and can encourage you when the going is hard.
Being a friend means more than just acting friendly.
A genuine friend is loyal to you and to your best interests
Today, most people seem more interested in outdoing their neighbor than in helping him. Even among so-called “friends” there is often a spirit of competition, not of loyalty
Many friendships last only as long as neither person is called on to make some change or to give up some selfish interest for the good of the other.
In this competitive world a true friend is not easy to find.
There is a lot of truth in the saying that ‘the only way to have a friend is to be one.’
Sometimes persons feel it keenly when they are ‘left out’ of things by other young persons whom they may admire.
Or they may have had friends only to lose them. They feel very hurt about this. Possibly they do not realize that friendship is a two-way street.
The kind of friends you get depends largely on the way you go about trying to find them
Some seek to win friends by spending money on them, or by inviting them to share in the enjoyment of material possessions, such as a stereo set and records or sports equipment
Friendship is the perfection of love, and superior to love; it is love purified, exalted, proved by experience and a consent of minds. Love, Madam, may, and love does, often stop short of friendship.
--Samuel richardson
I love having friends from other parts of the globe
My aunt is my friend
we talk like as if were are teenagers
True, this may draw some to you. The Proverbs say, “Many are the friends of the rich person,” and that “everybody is a companion to the man making gifts.” Yes, many people act friendly when a person spends his money freely. But when the money runs out so do the “friends.”—Proverbs 14:20; 19:6.
Hello lovely people... What if everyone in this world are true friends....
It is a basic principle of social relations that you tend to become like those around you if you associate with them long enough.
Your choice of friends tells a lot about what kind of person you are or are likely to become. Your close friends are bound to have a “molding” effect on you.
are we attracted by persons who pride themselves on being able to “outsmart” others, and who, in place of genuine courage, take blind risks just to show off?
A question to allhftcx
Hola!!! it's great to read smart comments today
your comments are very informative
i like this topic
Friendhip day should be celebrated
leave it your friends to decide on whether you are a trusted friend or not.
if you are the boss and you ahve some friends working for you, it might be difficult to work to getheras friends
locating your old friends after so many years of not seeing each other is very difficult
reunion with old friends will take lots of laughter because of age and growing sideways. ha ha ha
staying intouch with friends is good way to talk old times.
It brings back old memories when you meet your classmates and old friends from high school
High school reunion is fun especially when you meet and start talking about good old times.
coordinating high school reunion is fun and hard. Cant remember many of them and where they are,as well as who were your close friends way back then.
I remember my old friend from high school, but when we saw each other after 20 years, oh boy! we need to go on diet! we laugh!
Some of My high school friends are still around but we have our own life now and we parted ways.
some of my high school friends are very successful professionally. they have a good job
I met one of high school friend and he is a well known businessman now.
Contacting your high school friends and classmates are challenging
have had your high school reunion with friends?
have had your high school reunion with friends?
having allies in the political arena will keep you in position. These are the friends of the power house
Governors and mayors appears to be the true friends of the president.
even under scrutiny, the president strong support comes from her friends in congress and the military
The interfaith rally in makati was peacefull and many organizational groups showed friendship even for few hours
Two former president of the Philippines used tobe nemesies but showed solidarity and a friend for a day.
it is nice to see thousands of people untied as one and appears to be friends during the huge rally in makati
It is evident that friendship can be a powerful tool to show unity.
It is gratifying to see friendship emanates doing a common cause.
Businessmen with opposing views and political stands remain friends at the end of the day
I am quite certain that many people who met for the first time became friends during the Makati rally
How do you determine true friendships?
Would you consider making friends with a foreigner?
You can see and feel if your friend is a fake or not!
will you marry your best friend?
In time of need your friend will be there for you. You will know who they are.
I have a feeling that some of my friends are not that loyal to me!
n close competetion, like in sports, friends are nor mally the one that are good rivals.
are you sure you know who your friends are?
I have to figure out who amongst my friends can be trusted.
Dont judge your friends by their looks but by their actions.
One of my friend is very critical and judgemental.
PEACH STRAWBERRY:
Great advice Peach... You seem to be a very nice person with a good disposition. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I definitely agree with Peach. :)
I found a friend whom I offered a seat on a bus.She is very smart,indutrious and kind.Didnt I find a treasure by just giving a small act of offering a seat?
A best friend could be your worst enemy too.If she becomes the next girl of your boyfriend.
That's true.My best friend was our bridge too. The letter bearer of my boyfriend.Then the next time I knew.They are already together .Now am out of the picture
That's true.My best friend was our bridge too. The letter bearer of my boyfriend.Then the next time I knew.They are already together .Now am out of the picture
Have thought that it would be good to have a World Frienship Day sponsored by the United Nations.
Making new friends is a good habit.
Having good friends are good to be with.
one of the sweetest thing in life is to be with you best friend and married as one.
It is very common to have many friends
Getting together with friens on weekends and ahve a picnic are fun
going out of your way to be with your friends is very challenging especially when your parents is keeping an eye on you
choosing your friends and knowing your enemies amongst them is hard to do
Can we just get along as friends to make this world united?
I like the concept of the world frienship day, it feels great
Can you inmagine this world united as one big family! Wow! you can meet lots of friends.
I like for the United Nation to take a lead on this frienship day.
The muslims would like to play big role on this friendship day.
Making friends with people from the muslim countries is very delicate especially for women.
I know of some muslim that would like to be friends with people around the world.
i would love to display the flag of my country during friendship day.
I think we have start to look at our own backyard first and get united like here in the Philippines.
In Mindanao, there lots of us that wants peace and to make friends wit everybody.
You are correct my brother, Mindanao is kind of forgaotten place.
In cotabato people there wants to make friends.
most of the time we are hiding and scared to go out . we want to meet other people too and be friends with them
Abdulaah told me its nice to have friends from Manila. He said they eat good food.
Oh, i like to at least try some of the food in Manila and meet new friends.
I can imagine myself eatinf dinner with a nice gruop of new friends in Manila.
But Mohamed told me to be carefull in Manila. You think they are your friends but just be carefull with them.
hi ate jewelz..
my mother's my inspiration to be a more productive and better person..
hehehe:)
that's why i despise to have any fight with anyone..
we must BUILD not DESTROY camaraderie especially that our country's experiencing a great turmoil..
tnx!great post!
i have the best set of friends..
when my mom was sick, they were always there to support and care for me..
and when my mom passed away last year, they didn't leave me..
they even invited me to spend x-mas and new year with them..
coz eventually i don't have a complete family..my father left us when my mother's health was starting to fail..
my friends and my brother are my only family now..
that's why i'm very grateful to God that i have them in my life..
they always make me smile especially my bestfriend..
she was one of those persons who believed in me at times when i was down and i have no one to turn to..
she was my ultimate shock absorber when i have a dopamine-filled bloodstream..hehe
she calms me down when i worry too much..
and most of all, she's always by my side to pacify me when i cry over a spilled milk coz she assures me that she would buy me one again..
i would not say i'm lucky..
the right term would be blessed..
so,i'm BLESSED to have such great friends and bestfriend like them..
nothing could ever replace them in my life..
they're my precious studs that keeps me going..
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