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Wednesday, February 27, 2008

UA&P I AM S.T.R.O.N.G: IF

Ruther writes..

“If you could go back and just change one thing in your life, would you? And if you did, would that change make your life better? Or would that change ultimately break your heart? Or break the heart of another? Would you choose an entirely different path? Or would you just change just one thing, just one moment? One moment you want always back?”

- One Tree Hill; Season 4, Ep. 14


Every time we encounter problems, most of the time, we wish we could turn back time to change certain situations in the past. We are left with the “If’s” and the “should have’s…” We think of statements like “If was only given a chance…”, “if it was not because of him”, so on and so forth. Then we look back and regret the things that we have done. Such situations can help us to move forward with our lives or can hinder us from enjoying our current state. Either we accept reality or become blinded with the good things that are ahead of us.

I remember when I was in my 1st year high school. I have a friend whom I was always with every break time. We share stories, we give advices about what to do with our crushes, and we help each other in almost all aspects of our teenage years. We were happy then. But because one mistake I did, our friendship seemed to fall apart. At first, I thought the situation was just okay.

Fast forward to my 2nd year, I realized each day we were becoming more and more distant to each other. I tried to make up for what I did until I was in 3rd year and 4th year high school. But in the end, I realized that it was already too late for me to rebuild our great friendship again.

There were days when I can’t help but regret that moment. All I wanted was to turn back the time and change the wrong things that I have done. But life is not meant for us to go back in the past. We cannot live a life of regret. Instead all we can do is move forward, recover and learn from the mistakes we have caused other people.


How about you? What will be your answer in the quote? Share your story with us.

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Anonymous said...

I really like the quote!

Anonymous said...

I committed a lot of mistakes in the past but i wouldn't want to change a thing. i learn from my mistakes, and move on with my life

Anonymous said...

ruther, very emotional post, i like it, i was in a similar situation before, but the thing is, i was in love with the guy

Anonymous said...

ruther, i liked the post but this is for bad bitch.. dont ever think that i did not love you... i too, regreted the moment we grew apart. i know its you because of the pen name.. we were still friends when i coined you that name.. imiss you girl.. i hope we can turn back time and i undo everything weve don and point our friendship at the right path... i still think of you its true that 1st love never dies...

Anonymous said...

ruther, i liked the post but this is for bad bitch.. dont ever think that i did not love you... i too, regreted the moment we grew apart. i know its you because of the pen name.. we were still friends when i coined you that name.. imiss you girl.. i hope we can turn back time and i undo everything weve don and point our friendship at the right path... i still think of you its true that 1st love never dies...

Anonymous said...

if's... my only advice guys is not to live in the past and wonder about ifs.. move on i know its hard right now but its for the best...

Anonymous said...

as the song goes... Go on girl, go on girl... its better to leave the pain and hurt behind.. i love you neyo see you on friday!!!

Anonymous said...

good guy, you're not such a good guy you know that, you left me alone, i thought you will always be there for me but no, you left me all alone hanging, and with went out with that girl, i was hurt and i think i still am hurting, the pain is so much that i can't sleep at night, you bastard, you bastard good boy

Anonymous said...

i do not worry about ifs i can bend time!!! i'm hero nakamura.. Go heroes!!

Anonymous said...

to jill:
i think its for the better.. i hope youre okay now

Anonymous said...

i regreted the day i fought with sub-zero, i can't turn back time anymore, he's still here never leaving my side, but it's akward that we don't speak to each other, sub-zero, i love you

Anonymous said...

as the song goes "im so thankful i found you"... regret is not a topic in my life i always look for the good in things and its true that when god takes he gives.. an i believe whenever a moment in time is taken away a better one replaces it

Anonymous said...

bad bi*ch do not treat me like that... i deserve a better treatment... i did not leave you.. you were very cold to me i was giving hints before, hints that will explain my love for you.. i was taken... taken for granted... eventhough, someone's holding me special, i can't give a definite answer to her coz, my heart will always keep you close, special... i miss you!!!

Anonymous said...

to kabuki:
(akward silence).... this is for you!!!

Anonymous said...

live in the present and make it worth living!!

Anonymous said...

(breaking the akward silence)...sub-zero why so cold to me? don't be like that, i still want to be with you, i am always with you, you always ride my back

Anonymous said...

If i were to turn back time, i would be a better student. And i would start off on the right track

Anonymous said...

ano ba yan, may mga LQ ba dito?

Anonymous said...

If i would change something in the past, i wouldn't be the same person i am right now

Anonymous said...

I am happy with my life, in spite of my many imperfections

Anonymous said...

fo the lover above i feel your pain.. i hope you can work things out..

Anonymous said...

Happy are those who find contentment in their lives :)

Anonymous said...

I'M A HUGE TREE HILL FAN :D

Anonymous said...

There are so many things i wish i didn't do in the past..

Anonymous said...

Be regret-free!

Anonymous said...

see you still care for me... i can see that there's still room for forgiveness... i give you signals but you gave me nothing.. just ask yourself why would a guy carry your things? why would this guy txt me the whole night? or why would he always buy bobaloca for me? ask these things and ask yourself did you give me any signs? im not a manghuula you know

Anonymous said...

i hate one tree hill, don't like the characters don't like anyone, and i sure do hate that quote

Anonymous said...

i'm riding yor back because you imagine me riding your back try imagining me out of your lif maybe thatsbetter...

Anonymous said...

oh i hate how much i love you good guy, i can't stand how much i need you, i hate how much i love you good guy but i just can't freaking let you go, and i hate that i love you sooooooooooooooooooooooo.......

Anonymous said...

i want to imagine you beside me while i sleep, us holding hands till the sun rises

Anonymous said...

i have lots of regrets, but just accept them as they happen because i know i can't do anything about it. it's a sad thought but that's life for me, i just think to myself that i am still alive, that in itself is good enough to make me stay happy

Anonymous said...

great post ruther, i really like the way you told us about your story, kudos to you

Anonymous said...

too deep...

Anonymous said...

regretting is so useless. a waste of time. there's nothing you can do about it anyway

Anonymous said...

Past is past. get over it!

Anonymous said...

nice story :)

Anonymous said...

I used to have a best friend. A guy best friend. Now, its so hard to patch things up. We're still friends but things are a lot different now

Anonymous said...

When the damage has been done, all you can do is say sorry and change for the better. its impossible to undo the past

Anonymous said...

that's why they called it the past, it's already been done, it's finished, no way to go back and change for the better, all we could do is simply to move on, be strong

Anonymous said...

great post ruther, very heart felt

Anonymous said...

what's done is done, no need to get sad about it and ruin your life, it's not worth it, never was it worth anything, thinking about the past

Anonymous said...

very sad post ruther, i like it

Anonymous said...

as the saying goes, "it ain't ober till its over" and the past is already done so basically, it's over

Anonymous said...

sad but true

Anonymous said...

what a sad reality we have

Anonymous said...

mas lalo kung mahal mo yung nagpasakit ng puso mo, di ka talaga makakatulog sa gabi nun, malulungkot ka talaga ng mahabang panahon

Anonymous said...

i'm a sad person, i always slash my wrist when i'm sad

Anonymous said...

nice and depressing post ruther, i'm sad

Anonymous said...

let's slash our wrists, who is with me, i am sad, depressed, and damn lonely, ayaw ko na mabuhay, maglalaslas na ako!!!!

Anonymous said...

kabuki you are sick you know that, please imagine me away from you, i don't want anywhere near you, you disgust me!!

Anonymous said...

aba naman, ang tindi ng post ni ruther, melowdramatic

Anonymous said...

"tell me, where did i go wrong, what can i do to change completely" i hate my life!!!! lets slash our wrists, emo guy i need you para may kasama ako dito

Anonymous said...

a sad side of lide, great post ruther, brave post, just keep on holding on brother

Anonymous said...

i regret that i fought with someone, if only i could speak to that person, i'm sort comings, it'll my fault, my head was big, i'm really sorry

Anonymous said...

i love this post, makes me remind of many things and contemplate on them

Anonymous said...

this article is so emo, it really suits me, slashing time

Anonymous said...

sad story ruther, i feel for you

Anonymous said...

the one thing i hate asking is if, "what if" i hate it, i want to move on with my life, what's done is done already

Anonymous said...

subbyzeroy, please understand, i don't want you to go, you will always be on my mind and not let you go, i always want you to be everywhere i go, with me in anything that i do, you are my one and only companion in this generation

Anonymous said...

mapurol talaga ang blade ko, i slashed stronger but it didn't work

Anonymous said...

ruther i had the same experience with you, can oyou be my friend instead?

Anonymous said...

this post makes me depressed, not cool, but it's great that you post it anyway, it's a favt of life i guess

Anonymous said...

why is it that i can't get the past off my mind, it sticks with me just like that, it's hard, i was once 130 pounds, now i'm only 90

Anonymous said...

as the song goes, "if you say that you love me, promise you'll always ne there, but my love will always be with you." sad thing is that my love ain't with me anymore

Anonymous said...

mukhang lahat ng mga regrets sa past nila dito mga love problems ah? meron bang may regrets na hindi love ang problem nila?

Anonymous said...

i just want to be with you my subby, my heart will never be zero because you are always in it...i'm so happy to have you, i imagine that you are happy with me, forever

Anonymous said...

happy go lucky, lahat kami puro may love problems, sorry naman, happy go lucky ka lang, kung gusto mo sama ka nalang sa akin sa pag laslas ko ng pulso, yun nalang ikakasaya ko

Anonymous said...

i love one tree hill! haha more quotes!

Anonymous said...

nice one :)

Anonymous said...

no, i will not change a thing

Anonymous said...

mistakes always happen

Anonymous said...

i always believe that everything happens for a reason!

Anonymous said...

you make choices,and you don't look back

Anonymous said...

you get nothing when you keep regretting

Anonymous said...

i love lines by one tree hill. i heart nathan scott!

Anonymous said...

learn from your mistakes :)

Anonymous said...

great story!

Anonymous said...

If something went wrong in the past.Dont dwell on it too long.Stand up and move forward...

Anonymous said...

good moral lesson!

Anonymous said...

MOVE ON! ----- easy to say, but hard to do haha

Anonymous said...

It takes time to realize our mistakes.That is why it's good to listen to those who were experienced in life like the elderly

Anonymous said...

We could avoid mistakes if we could be less daring in Life.Slow down,analyze things before you decide to do something major in life.

Anonymous said...

Regret is for people who are not contented with their lives

Anonymous said...

don't get stuck in your past

Anonymous said...

Mistakes only make you stronger!

Anonymous said...

ONE TREE HILL!!!!

Anonymous said...

Life goes on :)

Anonymous said...

You can never move forward if you're stuck with your past

Anonymous said...

i agree with you dont be stuck with the past

Anonymous said...

i feel for you. i've encountered the same situation before

Anonymous said...

we must all be mature and accept the things cannot change

Anonymous said...

worrying about the past will not do any good to you

Anonymous said...

i agree with you dont be stuck with the past

Anonymous said...

be happy with your life today!

Anonymous said...

my friend sub-zero will never leave me, because i want him to be always by my side

Anonymous said...

was the damage that bad for your friend not to forgive you? :(

Anonymous said...

tree hill drama!

Anonymous said...

lang hiya, i can't slash my wrist well, mapupurol mga blades dito sa bahay

Anonymous said...

very nice and real post

Anonymous said...

if reminds me of the song by bread

Anonymous said...

great post ruther

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Anonymous said...

nice post

Anonymous said...

move on...

Anonymous said...

this is a good one!

Anonymous said...

thanks for sharing this ruther the man!!

Anonymous said...

i wish i had done better earlier on in school.. that's what i would like to change!

Anonymous said...

Powerful quote.. I have learned to live life without regret. It's quite hard to do but life just has to go on... We can't live our life always looking back to what has been done, hoping to change it. The past is past, it's time to move forward.

Anonymous said...

or sharing this nice post ruther!

Anonymous said...

I must admit, when Lucas blurted out these lines, it hit me: would I want to go back to change something from my past? My answer would be yes, but at the back of my mind, there's this fear. If I change that one thing in my life, I would have been a totally different person. I would probably still be a child and not actually see the reality. It would all be so idealistic and so story-free if I change that event in my life. Now going back, would I still go back? No. I don't think so. Cause right now, I am no longer stupid. I know what is going on outside my own small world. I know why bad things happen. I know what bad things are for. I know why bad people are the way they are. I know why bad exists.

And it's a relief to know that the bad things are the ones that actually triggers my understanding of what is good, day by day. That's a good thing, right?

Now that I know, I will not go back to change anything. Not at all. My past is how I know what I know now.

Best of all, I know what I want, and I want what I know. :)

Anonymous said...

i don't want to change any thing in my past..whatever life i had before made me who i am right now..
those experiences made me stronger..
those were one of my driving forces to continue life despite the trials that come my way..
i don't live life hanging on the regrets of my past..
i learned so many lessons and i'm grateful for those things..
i'm aiming that i should live my present life to the fullest and be hopeful for what the future may bring to me..
anyway, nice story kuya!

Anonymous said...

One tree hill sucks! gossip girl is the new thing!

Anonymous said...

all our pst experiences shape us into who we are today, both the good and the bad. What if's will only make us miserable and think of the many possibilities that could have and should have happened. If we think about it, what if's don't help, if any, they only make us miserable.

I would not like to go back and change anything, because if i did, i wouldn't be the same person i am now.

Anonymous said...

all our pst experiences shape us into who we are today, both the good and the bad. What if's will only make us miserable and think of the many possibilities that could have and should have happened. If we think about it, what if's don't help, if any, they only make us miserable.

I would not like to go back and change anything, because if i did, i wouldn't be the same person i am now.

tokiwashojo said...

all our pst experiences shape us into who we are today, both the good and the bad. What if's will only make us miserable and think of the many possibilities that could have and should have happened. If we think about it, what if's don't help, if any, they only make us miserable.

I would not like to go back and change anything, because if i did, i wouldn't be the same person i am now.

tokiwashojo said...

all our pst experiences shape us into who we are today, both the good and the bad. What if's will only make us miserable and think of the many possibilities that could have and should have happened. If we think about it, what if's don't help, if any, they only make us miserable.

I would not like to go back and change anything, because if i did, i wouldn't be the same person i am now.

Anonymous said...

great post ruthee

Anonymous said...

this post reminds me that in life we should never let our regrets pull us down. for us to no basically not regret in the future, we should always treasure each and every moment we have in our lives.

Anonymous said...

yuk one three hill? The OC is better.

Anonymous said...

hey I am STRONG guys and gals. great post. lovin it

Anonymous said...

what the hell is this? too sentimental. im too fly to be depressed

Anonymous said...

hey you chuck bass? you ain't ne-yo

Anonymous said...

hmm. im bored

Anonymous said...

can i get SARA's cell number? she's cute as hell

Anonymous said...

comments comments! i love it

Anonymous said...

WHO WENT TO NE-YO concert?

Anonymous said...

Hey guys! wala lang

Anonymous said...

I agree with NANCY! nice comment girl

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Anonymous said...

bored ako. i need a textmate

Anonymous said...

Good quote, i like it

Anonymous said...

If i could turn back time, i would be smarter on deciding on important choices in my life

Anonymous said...

I should've waited a little more time before getting married

Anonymous said...

to jill:

you are definitely right, we all learn from our mistakes

Anonymous said...

I'd rather learn from the mistakes of other

Anonymous said...

It is inevitable to commit mistakes no matter how hard we try not to

Anonymous said...

I should have been more careful in choosing whom to trust

Anonymous said...

i remember one situation that I have been very kind to this person who is financially challenged, i even extended my financial held, but then in the end, she caused me so much pain

Anonymous said...

Do you regret helping that person?

Anonymous said...

Not really Aimee, I don't regret doing good things for my neighbor.

Anonymous said...

The lesson, don't get so attached unless you don't know the person very well

Anonymous said...

You have a point on that

Anonymous said...

it's because we are all inclined in making mistakes to others

Anonymous said...

less attachment, less pain

Anonymous said...

less pain, less regret

Anonymous said...

But it doesn't mean we have to be cold to people around us, we just have to be sensitive enough

Anonymous said...

Mistakes, mistakes, mistakes...
part of our everyday life

Anonymous said...

it's part of our imperfection

Anonymous said...

there are only few things that I regret

Anonymous said...

I am happy with what I am today despites of the many mistakes i've made in my life

Anonymous said...

i regret cutting my hair...

Anonymous said...

It'll grow back Nice

Anonymous said...

it's not a disastrous mistake

Anonymous said...

If only I have my beautiful hair that time when i met him, he might gave more attention to me

Anonymous said...

Oh, that's disastrous... just kidding

Anonymous said...

I regret being too kind

Anonymous said...

there's a thin line between being to kind and being gullible

Anonymous said...

I never regret marrying my husband even if we are in crisis today

Anonymous said...

Regret is normal from the moment we realize our mistakes

Anonymous said...

But regretting in your entire life won't help you to grow

Anonymous said...

what about things that we regret saying...

Anonymous said...

Though all of us make mistakes, these need not be a cause for despair.

Anonymous said...

we may not be aware of our mistakes unless someone points them out to us

Anonymous said...

Would a child learn to walk without ever stumbling? No, for a child learns from mistakes and keeps on trying until balance is achieved.

Anonymous said...

To lead balanced lives, we also need to learn from our mistakes and those of others.

Anonymous said...

We are talking about IFs here..

Anonymous said...

One lesson is that God does not condemn all who make mistakes but judges only those refusing to rectify them if possible.

Anonymous said...

You know what regret is. It is a wish that something could be done over and done differently

Anonymous said...

It is mental sorrow for past conduct or neglect

Anonymous said...

All of us have done things that we wish we could go back and do differently

Anonymous said...

Many persons worry about their mistakes. But will worry solve the problem?

Anonymous said...

Apology to the one wronged may help to restore good relations. Avoiding the circumstances that led to the wrong will help to avoid future difficulty.

Anonymous said...

Good comments people, but do you any regrets? Share it with us

Anonymous said...

a lot of regrets

Anonymous said...

Our chief concern now should be for the present and the future.

Anonymous said...

We must maintain a course of faithfulness that will prevent any possible regrets at a future time

Anonymous said...

Just as we looked back over the past five years, let us look five years into the future

Anonymous said...

good advice anonymous

Anonymous said...

If only I studied harder, then I could be a cum laude

Anonymous said...

I was never a grade-conscious student

Anonymous said...

If only I took good care of my health, i will never experience cramps during my period

Anonymous said...

the pain is killing me

Anonymous said...

if only I've invested my money wisely, then I have a sure good income

Anonymous said...

I should have been wiser in choosing my friends

Anonymous said...

they betrayed you Alonelyguy?

Anonymous said...

Since we all commit mistakes and regret, that's a good quote for all of us

Anonymous said...

I just realized how much mistakes i've made... hehehe

Anonymous said...

Yeah Snow, everytime you're around we feel cold

Anonymous said...

Excuse me, do i know you?

Anonymous said...

I smell blood...

Anonymous said...

Oooppsss... hello everyone

Anonymous said...

post your comments people

Anonymous said...

That is a nice quote...

Anonymous said...

I regret eating peanuts the other day, I had an asthma attack

Anonymous said...

So next time I will not eat someone else's food

Anonymous said...

Instead feeling pity for me, my husband was a bit mad

Anonymous said...

Pasaway ka pala!

Anonymous said...

I could share this quote to my friends

Anonymous said...

Hello, just dropping by

Anonymous said...

i regret being a burning-chick-magnet!!

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