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Wednesday, February 27, 2008

UA&P I AM S.T.R.O.N.G: IF

Ruther writes..

“If you could go back and just change one thing in your life, would you? And if you did, would that change make your life better? Or would that change ultimately break your heart? Or break the heart of another? Would you choose an entirely different path? Or would you just change just one thing, just one moment? One moment you want always back?”

- One Tree Hill; Season 4, Ep. 14


Every time we encounter problems, most of the time, we wish we could turn back time to change certain situations in the past. We are left with the “If’s” and the “should have’s…” We think of statements like “If was only given a chance…”, “if it was not because of him”, so on and so forth. Then we look back and regret the things that we have done. Such situations can help us to move forward with our lives or can hinder us from enjoying our current state. Either we accept reality or become blinded with the good things that are ahead of us.

I remember when I was in my 1st year high school. I have a friend whom I was always with every break time. We share stories, we give advices about what to do with our crushes, and we help each other in almost all aspects of our teenage years. We were happy then. But because one mistake I did, our friendship seemed to fall apart. At first, I thought the situation was just okay.

Fast forward to my 2nd year, I realized each day we were becoming more and more distant to each other. I tried to make up for what I did until I was in 3rd year and 4th year high school. But in the end, I realized that it was already too late for me to rebuild our great friendship again.

There were days when I can’t help but regret that moment. All I wanted was to turn back the time and change the wrong things that I have done. But life is not meant for us to go back in the past. We cannot live a life of regret. Instead all we can do is move forward, recover and learn from the mistakes we have caused other people.


How about you? What will be your answer in the quote? Share your story with us.

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337 comments:

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Anonymous said...

Piolo P. is here...

Anonymous said...

why do you regret being a chick-magnet?

Anonymous said...

man you shouldn't regret that. You can have a good poultry business HAHHAHAHA!!!

Anonymous said...

i wish a can be a burning-swine-magnet

Anonymous said...

you guys are so funny!

Anonymous said...

I hope you won't regret that if your wish comes true Jun

Anonymous said...

very good quote!

Anonymous said...

Do you regret on something gehazi that you wanted to change?

Anonymous said...

mmmm.. let me think, i was just passin' by

Anonymous said...

I regret that i bought a cheap bag last year

Anonymous said...

why is that?

Anonymous said...

because i have to buy another one. it is not that sturdy, low quality

Anonymous said...

Most of the time when the price is cheap, the quality is also cheap

Anonymous said...

i agree with that

Anonymous said...

I also regret buying some items then i will realize that I don't really need them

Anonymous said...

then what do you do with them?

Anonymous said...

i keep them

Anonymous said...

Hoping someday i could use them

Anonymous said...

But sometimes I give them away to my sister

Anonymous said...

i can be your sister too... hahaha ;P

Anonymous said...

i have no regrets in my life

Anonymous said...

good for you

Anonymous said...

but for sure I have mistakes too

Anonymous said...

of course, we are imperfect creatures

Anonymous said...

just like the other comment that I've read, we shouldn't focus on regretting

Anonymous said...

Absolutely correct anonymous

Anonymous said...

If we commit mistakes, regret for a while

Anonymous said...

Then you can think how to solve the problem you've caused

Anonymous said...

Then ponder on what lesson you can get from your mistake and remember them

Anonymous said...

Don't get stuck on the dark side of your situation

Anonymous said...

being optimistic will help us to get through our mistakes

Anonymous said...

it's god to sometimes think of our mistakes, having "ifs" and "should haves" but we must move on.

Anonymous said...

i mean good

Anonymous said...

Tha's ok, we all commit mistakes, hehehe

Anonymous said...

Mga hunghang, di naman nababalik yung oras e!

Anonymous said...

Duh? kaya nga "IF" e! ikaw yung hunghang!

Anonymous said...

Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.

Anonymous said...

Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. Unless it's a fatal mistake, which, at least, others can learn from.

Anonymous said...

Be not ashamed of mistakes and thus make them crimes.

Anonymous said...

We must not say every mistake is a foolish one.

Anonymous said...

Laughing at our mistakes can lengthen our own life. Laughing at someone else's can shorten it.

Anonymous said...

nstruction does not prevent wasted time or mistakes; and mistakes themselves are often the best teachers of all.

Anonymous said...

Just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean you are a mistake.

Anonymous said...

Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.

Anonymous said...

The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.

Anonymous said...

Acknowledge that you failed, draw your lessons from it, and use it to your advantage to make sure it never happens again.

Anonymous said...

There are no mistakes, save one: the failure to learn from a mistake.

Anonymous said...

Only those who do nothing at all make no mistakes... but that would be a mistake.

Anonymous said...

if, if, if.... hay buhay

Anonymous said...

"No one is listening until you make a mistake."

Anonymous said...

Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain.

Anonymous said...

Mistakes, scandals, and failures no longer signal catastrophe. The crucial thing is that they be made credible, and that the public be made aware of the efforts being expended in that direction. The ''marketing'' immunity of governments is similar to that of the major brands of washing powder.

Anonymous said...

We made too many wrong mistakes

Anonymous said...

Every man has his follies -- and often they are the most interesting thing he has got.

Anonymous said...

As long as the world is turning and spinning, we're gonna be dizzy and we're gonna make mistakes.

Anonymous said...

Three-fourths of the mistakes a man makes are made because he does not really know what he thinks he knows.

Anonymous said...

Six mistakes mankind keeps making century after century:
Believing that personal gain is made by crushing others;
Worrying about things that cannot be changed or corrected;
Insisting that a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it;
Refusing to set aside trivial preferences;
Neglecting development and refinement of the mind;
Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.

Anonymous said...

It was when I found out I could make mistakes that I knew I was on to something."

Anonymous said...

f all else fails, immortality can always be assured by spectacular error

Anonymous said...

Attempt the end and never stand to doubt;
Nothing's so hard, but search will find it out.

Anonymous said...

No mans error becomes his own Law; nor obliges him to persist in it.

Anonymous said...

he greatest blunders, like the thickest ropes, are often compounded of a multitude of strands.

Anonymous said...

A man of genius makes no mistakes. His errors are volitional and are the portals of discovery.

Anonymous said...

"You must never feel badly about making mistakes," explained Reason quietly, "as long as you take the trouble to learn from them. For you often learn more by being wrong for the right reasons than you do by being right for the wrong reasons."

Anonymous said...

"There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from."

Anonymous said...

Don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can develop ability to laugh at yourself, you will be much more relaxed when given or giving criticism… Blessed is he who can enjoy his blunders.

Anonymous said...

To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all."

Anonymous said...

The world always makes the assumption that the exposure of an error is identical with the discovery of truth--that the error and truth are simply opposite. They are nothing of the sort. What the world turns to, when it is cured on one error, is usually simply another error, and maybe one worse than the first one.

Anonymous said...

"But have you ever noticed one encouraging thing about me, Marilla? I never make the same mistake twice. Oh don't you see, Marilla? There must be a limit to the mistakes one person can make, and when I get to the end of them, then I'll be through with them. That's a very comforting thought."

Anonymous said...

"The drop hollows the stone not by force but by often falling."

Anonymous said...

We've all heard that we have to learn from our mistakes, but I think it's more important to learn from successes. If you learn only from your mistakes, you are inclined to learn only errors.

Anonymous said...

"The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing."

Anonymous said...

Often we can achieve an even better result when we stumble yet are willing to start over, when we don't give up after a mistake, when something doesn't come easily but we throw ourselves into trying, when we're not afraid to appear less than perfectly polished. By prizing heartfulness above faultlessness, we may reap more from our effort because we’re more likely to be changed by it. We learn and grow and are transformed not so much by what we do but by why and how we do it.

Anonymous said...

Always acknowledge a fault. This will throw those in authority off their guard and give you an opportunity to commit more.

Anonymous said...

To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity.

Anonymous said...

If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.

Anonymous said...

I recall that my workshop leaders were tactful in their ways of acquainting me with my shortcomings as a writer. So much so that I hardly realized they were doing it. I want always to keep that sort of thing in mind when I'm teaching. The way you get better in everything in this life is to make mistakes. Otherwise you're probably doing it right by accident. But you have to do everything wrong before you can really start with some authority to do it right.

Anonymous said...

The physician can bury his mistakes, but the architect can only advise his clients to plant vines.

Anonymous said...

I'd rather regret the things I have done than the things that I haven't.

Anonymous said...

A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.

Anonymous said...

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.

Anonymous said...

I have no regrets. I wouldn't have lived my life the way I did if I was going to worry about what people were going to say.

Anonymous said...

Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.

Anonymous said...

"Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable."

Anonymous said...

Remorse is the punishment of crime; repentance, its expiation. The former appertains to a tormented conscience; the latter to a soul changed for the better.

Anonymous said...

Forget regret, or life is yours to miss."

Anonymous said...

Make it a rule in life never to regret and never look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it; it is good only for wallowing in

Anonymous said...

"When I retire I'm going to spend my evenings by the fireplace going through those boxes. There are things in there that ought to be burned."

Anonymous said...

he bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone.

Anonymous said...

Regrets are idle; yet history is one long regret. Everything might have turned out so differently."

Anonymous said...

I have no apologies, no regrets. I gave my very best efforts.... I've been hung in effigy. I've been spat upon. You just have to let those things bounce off.

Anonymous said...

"For of all sad words of tongue or pen,
The saddest are these: 'It might have been!'"

Anonymous said...

There’s a miracle of friendship that
dwells within the heart
And you don’t know how it happens
or where it gets its start
But the happiness it brings you
always gives a special lift
Any you realize that friendship
Is God’s most perfect gift.

Anonymous said...

Friendship is like a prism through which the many variations of beauty are revealed in our lives.

Anonymous said...

i had a friend who use to envy my another friend, now, we are not close anymore

Anonymous said...

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."

Anonymous said...

A memory lasts forever.
Never does it die.
True friends stay together.
And never say goodbye.

Anonymous said...

A man should choose a friend who is better than himself. There are plenty of acquaintances in the world; but very few real friends. ]

--chinese proverb

Anonymous said...

"When I find myself fading, I close my eyes and realize my friends are my energy."

Anonymous said...

"The road to a friend's house is never long."

-- Danish proverb

Anonymous said...

Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything."

Anonymous said...

Friendships are different from all other relationships. Unlike acquaintanceship, friendship is based on love. Unlike lovers and married couples, it is free of jealousy. Unlike children and parents, it knows neither criticism nor resentment. Friendship has no status in law. Business partnerships are based on a contract. So is marriage. Parents are bound by the law. But friendships are freely entered into, freely given, freely exercised.

Anonymous said...

n poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. The young they keep out of mischief; to the old they are a comfort and aid in their weakness, and those in the prime of life they incite to noble deeds.

Anonymous said...

From quiet homes and first beginning,
Out to the undiscovered ends,
There's nothing worth the wear of winning,
But laughter and the love of friends.

Anonymous said...

Friendship, “the wine of life,” should, like a well-stocked cellar, be continually renewed; and it is consolatory to think, that although we can seldom add what will equal the generous first growths of our youth, yet friendship becomes insensibly old in much less time than is commonly imagined, and not many years are required to make it mellow and pleasant. Warmth will, no doubt, make a considerable difference. Men of affectionate temper and bright fancy will coalesce a great deal sooner than those who are cold and dull.

Anonymous said...

"A friendship can weather most things and thrive in thin soil; but it needs a little mulch of letters and phone calls and small, silly presents every so often - just to save it from drying out completely.

Anonymous said...

Friends are treasures.

Anonymous said...

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind."

Anonymous said...

"Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend."

Anonymous said...

There is no more sure tie between friends than when they are united in their objects and wishes

Anonymous said...

He who has a thousand friends
Has not a friend to spare,
While he who has one enemy
Shall meet him everywhere."

Anonymous said...

O friend, my bosom said,
Through thee alone the sky is arched.
Through thee the rose is red;
All things through thee take nobler form,
And look beyond the earth,
The mill-round of our fate appears
A sun-path in thy worth.
Me too thy nobleness has taught
To master my despair;
The fountains of my hidden life
Are through thy friendship fair.

Anonymous said...

The making of friends who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man's success in life.

Anonymous said...

"A friend is one who knows you and loves you just the same."

Anonymous said...

I loved my friend
He went away from me
There's nothing more to say
The poem ends soft as it began -
I loved my friend.

Anonymous said...

My father always used to say that when you die, if you've got five real friends, then you've had a great life.

Anonymous said...

"Friendship, 'the wine of life,'" said Boswell, "should, like a well-stocked cellar, be thus continually renewed." And Dr. Johnson added to this "A man, Sir, should keep his friendships in constant repair."

Anonymous said...

"The real test of friendship is: can you literally do nothing with the other person? Can you enjoy those moments of life that are utterly simple?"

Anonymous said...

When twilight drops her curtain down
And pins it with a star
Remember that you have a friend
Though she may wander far.

Anonymous said...

We have been friends together,
In sunshine and in shade;
Since first beneath the chestnut-trees
In infancy we played.
But coldness dwells within thy heart,
A cloud is on thy brow;
We have been friends together—
Shall a light word part us now?...
...We have been sad together,
We have wept, with bitter tears,
O’er the grass-grown graves, where slumber’d
The hopes of early years.
The voices which are silent there
Would bid thee clear thy brow;
We have been sad together—
Oh! what shall part us now?

Anonymous said...

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.

Anonymous said...

The friends I made have slipped and strayed.
And who's the one that cares
A trifling lot and best forgot -
And that's my tale, and theirs.
Then if my 'friendships break and bend
There's little need to cry
The while I know that every foe
Is faithful till I die.'

Anonymous said...

"We call that person who has lost his father, an orphan; and a widower that man who has lost his wife. But that man who has known the immense unhappiness of losing a friend, by what name do we call him? Here every language is silent and holds its peace in impotence."

Anonymous said...

Contrary to general belief, I do not believe that friends are necessarily the people you like best, they are merely the people who got there first.

Anonymous said...

We all lose friends.. we lose them in death, to distance and over time. But even though they may be lost, hope is not. The key is to keep them in your heart, and when the time is right, you can pick up the friendship right where you left off. Even the lost find their way home when you leave the light on."

Anonymous said...

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow grow, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."

Anonymous said...

There is one friend in the life of each of us who seems not a separate person, however dear and beloved, but an expansion, an interpretation, of one's self, the very meaning of one's soul.

Anonymous said...

You have been my friend. That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what’s a life, anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die. A spider’s life can’t help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anyone’s life can stand a little of that.

Anonymous said...

"True friends stab you in the front."

Anonymous said...

It is sad and wrong to be so dependent for the life of my life on any human being as I am on you; but I cannot by any force of logic cure myself at this date, when it has become second nature.

Anonymous said...

Man could not live if he were entirely impervious to sadness. Many sorrows can be endured only by being embraced, and the pleasure taken in them naturally has a somewhat melancholy character.

Anonymous said...

Sadness does not inhere in things; it does not reach us from the world and through mere contemplation of the world. It is a product of our own thought. We create it out of whole cloth.

Anonymous said...

I walked a mile with Pleasure.
She chattered all the way,
But left me none the wiser
For all she had to say.

I walked a mile with Sorrow,
And ne’er a word said she;
But oh, the things I learned from her
When Sorrow walked with me.

Anonymous said...

I can see the humorous side of things and enjoy the fun when it comes; but look where I will, there seems to me always more sadness than joy in life.

Anonymous said...

Laugh and the world laughs with you,
Weep, and you weep alone;
For this brave old earth must borrow its mirth,
But has trouble enough of its own.

Anonymous said...

For us there is only one season, the season of sorrow. The very sun and moon seem taken from us. Outside, the day may be blue and gold, but the light that creeps down through the thickly-muffled glass of the small iron-barred window beneath which one sits is grey and niggard. It is always twilight in one's cell, as it is always twilight in one's heart. And in the sphere of thought, no less than in the sphere of time, motion is no more.

Anonymous said...

if only i could trn back time, i will tell her how she rocks!

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